Mommy Needs a Refill
By Nan Kavanaugh
When I was a new mother expecting my first child, I asked every experienced mother that I encountered for a piece of advice. I asked them to share the one thing they wished someone had told them prior to diving headfirst into motherhood. Of all the words of wisdom, there was one token of guidance that has served me the most over the years. It came from a veteran mother of three adult children, who had worked with hundreds of mothers as an early childhood education specialist. She told me that a mother is like a pitcher of water, always pouring out love and giving from herself in order to fill the needs of her family. But a pitcher can only serve if it remains full.
It is vital for mothers to make time to replenish themselves in order to nourish their family. Whether it be a long hot shower after pulling an all-nighter with a newborn, or taking a ceramics class on Wednesday evenings, it is important for mothers to regularly take time for themselves. With motherhood comes a surrender of the self that at times can be consuming, and making time to fulfill your own needs can feel selfish. Yet, a mother can only share what she has to give. By nurturing ourselves we keep our reservoirs full, so we can always be on tap for those who need us the most.