By Lindsay Tharp
I have always looked enviously at women with short hair. I would always think to myself, how did they get the guts to chop it? What made them take the plunge? I’m not just talking about a short bob, I’m talking about the women who rock the short pixie cuts. I think there is something so brave about short hair. When you go that short you have nothing to hide behind. Almost all women I meet or see with very short hair have a certain confidence surrounding them. Don’t get me wrong I love long hair, but there is something to be admired about women short hair. It’s like they are saying, “I know I’m beautiful, I am comfortable in my own skin.”
Here is a quote that sums it up nicely-
“With short hair you begin to crave pearl necklaces, long earrings, and a variety of sunglasses. Short hair removes obvious femininity and replaces it with style.” – Joan Juliet Buck for American Vogue, c.1988
This quote along with knowing my 14 inches of hair would go to someone who needed it, was my final push. So I made my appointment at Ten Salon with the lovely Dana Starr.
For those of you who aren’t familiar with Locks of Love here is a little more about them:
Locks of Love is a public non-profit organization that provides hairpieces to financially disadvantaged children in the United States and Canada under age 21 suffering from long-term medical hair loss from any diagnosis. www.locksoflove.org
GUIDELINES FOR ACCEPTABLE DONATIONS
• Hair that is colored or permed is acceptable.
• Hair cut years ago is usable if it has been stored in a ponytail or braid.
• Hair that has been bleached (usually this refers to highlighted hair) is not usable. If unsure, ask your stylist. We are not able to accept bleached hair due to a chemical reaction that occurs during the manufacturing process. **If the hair was bleached years ago and has completely grown out it is fine to donate.
• Hair that is swept off of the floor is not usable because it is not bundled in a ponytail or braid.
• Hair that is shaved off and not in a ponytail or braid is not usable. If shaving your head, first divide hair into multiple ponytails to cut off.
• We cannot accept dreadlocks. Our manufacturer is not able to use them in our children’s hairpieces. We also cannot accept wigs, falls, hair extensions or synthetic hair.
• Layered hair is acceptable if the longest layer is 10 inches.
• Layered hair may be divided into multiple ponytails.
• Curly hair may be pulled straight to measure the minimum 10 inches.
• 10 inches measured tip to tip is the minimum length needed for a hairpiece.
Locks of Love was the motivating factor that allowed me to muster the courage to cut my hair. I thought to myself, even if I don’t like how I look with short hair at least I know someone will be getting a nice long wig. Not only do I feel great about donating my hair, but I am also really enjoying the new do!
Since 2011, St. Augustine’s Flagler Hospital and the American Heart Association- First Coast Market have teamed up to provide some reassurance to new parents through the Newborns Go Red program.
“Upon discharge, parents of all babies born during the designated month are sent home with some nice, very expensive kits,” says Nangela Davidson, Nursing Director for Maternal and Child Services. She estimates Flagler issues close to 100 kits throughout the month.
The kits contain a variety of items including a red bonnet, booties, healthy family material highlighting nutrition and physical activity, and an informational video with instructions on how to perform infant cardio-pulmonary resuscitation (CPR), along with an infant-sized mannequin to practice on. “You can tell a lot of time and love was placed in putting the kits together, and they are really well-received by our new parents,” Davidson says.
Flagler offers a FREE CPR course that is open to the public, but the kits mean busy new parents don’t have to sign-up and come in for a class to keep their family safe. Many parents take the self-learn video home to view at a convenient time, but the staff is happy to provide a little extra reassurance to those who need it.
“Last year, I was rounding on a patient who was quite nervous about taking her baby home. I found out the parents had a previous SIDS [Sudden Infant Death Syndrome]. I got a kit and spent a good hour with the patient and her husband and they left feeling so much more comfortable,” says Davidson.
By Jamie Rich
As women, we’ve all stood in front of a mirror and shook our heads at our reflection and complained about extra pounds, dark circles under our eyes, or some other physical trait dissatisfying us.
Many mornings I catch myself sitting at my vanity, spreading on concealer and foundation, thoughtlessly saying things like, “I’m looking pretty rough today.”
Usually my 7-year-old daughter is not far from earshot, dressing for school, brushing her teeth or even admiring her own appearance in the full-length mirror in my bathroom.
Recently, something caught my attention. She started to criticize herself.
“I hate my hair,” she said. “And my eyes look terrible!”
Of course, I followed her comments with a shower of assurances and standard-issue statements about inner beauty being the only thing that matters. But what I failed to realize, was that as a mom I need to squelch the self-loathing and celebrate my own attributes, flaws and all. This perspective needed to be changed not only for myself, but more importantly, for my daughters.
When we criticize our appearance, and we all do, our daughters are listening. And it’s impossible for impressionable souls not to turn the analysis inward.
I recently attended a panel session, sponsored by Dove, where psychologists, activists and TV personalities discussed self-esteem, as part of the Women in the World Summit in New York. Many poignant messages emerged throughout the conversation, moderated by ABC news correspondent Deborah Roberts. Panelist Mika Brzezinski, co-host of MSNBC’s “Morning Joe,” even wiped off her stage makeup and removed false eyelashes to show that she was strong enough to face hundreds of audience members and the world bare-faced, despite admitting she’s a makeup junkie. The message that struck me the most, however, touched on this issue of instilling self-esteem in our daughters by loving ourselves first.
“You would never denigrate your daughter’s appearance, so why would you denigrate your own,” one panelist said.
While I still plan on wearing makeup this Mothers’ Day, I pledge to stop focusing on my flaws and verbalizing physical insecurities, ending the denigration and hopefully teaching my girls self-confidence and how to honor themselves along the way.